A question about what to do when people treat you badly

Question: Some friends have hurt me by endorsing some rumors and not acting at all like friends. What should I do? What do you do when people speak badly of you or malign your character?

Answer: Don't react in kind, but rather be kind. On those occasions I have been sharp or edgy  in response to what I perceived as something unfair, untrue and unGodly I have always regretted it. I have, however, never regretted being kind. 

You might also withdraw and be quiet for a season of time in order to provide some space. You can use this time to pray and forgive. Sure, the people who hurt you can say all kind of things about you during this season of time. They may never recognize their wrong, apologize, recognize your forgiveness, or even know you've worked hard to get past what they said. 

Here's the thing... If they continue to act wrongly it will only expose them for what they are. But exposing them is not your goal. Your goal is to move forward and forgive. Turning the other cheek is not a sign of weakness but rather a sign of strength. It is kind because it does not strike back, which shows anyone watching (and many people are probably watching) who in the relationship is acting in love.

Remember, You can only control you, so if you need to be quiet and withdraw for awhile my advice is to do it. But be kind in all things.